Quarterlife Crisis

25 May

I think this is a GREAT article on the ol’ quarterlife crisis, something I know myself and many of my friends are feeling these days.


“This phenomenon, known as the “Quarterlife Crisis,” is as ubiquitous as it is intangible. Unrelenting indecision, isolation, confusion and anxiety about working, relationships and direction is reported by people in their mid-twenties to early thirties who are usually urban, middle class and well-educated; those who should be able to capitalize on their youth, unparalleled freedom and free-for-all individuation. They can’t make any decisions, because they don’t know what they want, and they don’t know what they want because they don’t know who they are, and they don’t know who they are because they’re allowed to be anyone they want.”

“Twentysomethings are also inundated with constant but mostly empty communication, as the increasingly primary social sphere exists online instead of real life. Nothing could be more alienating to someone in the midst of a crisis than a tool like Facebook. Says James, “All sorts of half-forgotten acquaintances and abandoned friendships reappear in this spreadsheet of potential reasons to feel terrible about yourself. If you’re as petty as I am, you spend a lot of Facebook time gauging your own feelings of inadequacy in direct relation to other people’s success. All these people you couldn’t give a shit about a couple of years ago are now these omnipresent benchmarks and counterpoints to measure against whatever you have or haven’t got going on in your life.”



One Response to “Quarterlife Crisis”

  1. Vintage Barbie May 27, 2009 at 6:45 pm #

    Youth is a time of finding your way–so naturally there is uncertainty involved–that’s the stage of life you’re in. You don’t know how things will end. The truth is none of us do, regardless of age— things never end until you die. So make friends with uncertainty and it will allow you to see life as an adventure. Try to avoid uncertainty and it will paralyze you with anxiety prior to boring you to death. And it’s really not about what you do for a living, it’s about your attitude. The Facebook part is something I never had to deal with. My advice: Just don’t go there!!! The annual exchange of Christmas cards with pictures (from those who’ve kept their looks ) and newletters (from those who think they have something to gloat over) is as far as I like to take it with people I don’t see on a regular basis. Do not compare yourself or your progress to others of your own age–EVER!!Between the tenth, the twenty-fifth and the fortieth high school reunions–fortunes change and change again. In the end, it dosen’t matter. There is no perfect life, just your life–enjoy every uncertain minute of it.

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