When To Hold ‘Em And When To Fold ‘Em

25 Mar

“The Friend Breakup” has been an issue I have discussed with a few people recently. Sometimes a friend breakup can be harder than an actual romantic breakup or ending. Jezebel.com was inspired by an article in today’s Wall Street Journal. I think they bring up some good points. At some point in life, most people will experience a nasty friend breakup. It sucks and it’s hard and you will creep on them online but eventually it goes away and it stops and you realize your life is a little sunnier without them.

“The friend split has popped up occasionally (NY Times article “The Cutting Game)in the media in recent years, perhaps because later marriage has increased the importance of platonic friendships — or perhaps because writers have simply run out of romance-themed trend pieces. Whatever the case, is to be some consensus: friend breakups are painful, but sometimes necessary.”

“Some friendships can actually be bad for us — if a friend is manipulative, untrustworthy, or intentionally hurtful, self-preservation pretty much demands a split. But what of the pal who’s simply annoying, who has objectionable political views (one of Bernstein’s examples), or with whom we just don’t have as much in common as we used to? This friend might be occasionally fun but often grating, or might make us angry and happy in equal measure. What to do?” -Jezebel.com

“There are 50 ways to leave your lover, according to Paul Simon. But how many ways are there to leave a friend?

I know, it’s a terrible question. But think about it: Some of the worst breakups in our lives are not with romantic partners. They are with friends—the people with whom we often share our deepest thoughts. Friends provide guidance, encouragement, laughter and a refuge. Losing a good friend can be one of the saddest experiences in life.” -WSJ.com

“Even today, I’m still dissecting where things went wrong. Although I understand on some level that I was unhappy, too, on another I am burned by the rejection. Perhaps the reason friend breakups are so painful is because, unlike romances, friendships rarely begin with an understanding that they might end. “It’s just more painful,” says Jane, an ad exec in her thirties, “when the only reason someone doesn’t want to see you is because they don’t like hanging out with you—not because they hate your parents or they’re busy at work.” -NY Times


3 Responses to “When To Hold ‘Em And When To Fold ‘Em”

  1. aliboo March 26, 2010 at 1:55 am #

    i have been splitting off from people left and right since i have been back. and getting a lot of flack for it, but a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. so if its time for you to kick james to the curb, you go girl! : ]

  2. Celie March 27, 2010 at 3:29 am #

    wow, this is sorta relevant to me right now!

  3. Zie Zie March 30, 2010 at 6:45 pm #

    You know this speaks to me Ratty! I like the excerpts. And, can we talk about how much better Heidi looks in that pic, despite the blue silver eye shadow?

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